Codependency
Codependency is a relational pattern marked by excessive emotional reliance on others, often stemming from early attachment wounds. It can lead to enmeshment, loss of boundaries, and a sense of incompleteness without constant validation. In contrast, interdependence reflects healthy connection, where individuals maintain autonomy while engaging in mutual emotional support and shared growth.
Codependency Origins
Why do people become codependent?
There are many possible reasons, but for many individuals, codependency often stems from a lack of deep, secure connections in early childhood. When children experience consistent emotional attunement and strong relational bonds, they internalize a sense of safety and security that supports healthy autonomy as they grow. Without those foundational connections, they may be more prone to seeking external validation or emotional stability through others—hallmarks of codependent behavior.
That said, this is a generalization. Some people who struggle with codependency did have secure attachments growing up. Personality traits, temperament, and life experiences also play a role. Whatever the origin, exploring these patterns and working toward interdependence—where emotional needs are met through mutual support without losing one's sense of self—is a valuable step toward relational health.
Interested in becoming more interdependent?
A powerful starting point is deepening your self-awareness—especially by exploring your personality type. Understanding your natural tendencies, relational patterns, and emotional needs can help you build healthier boundaries and engage in more balanced, mutual relationships.
